Ko te kirimana te faaipoiporaa - te kore o te whakawhirinaki he akiaki ranei?

I roto i te katoa whenua tino whakawhanakehia, te kirimana te faaipoiporaa ko te täkupu. ake e kore e tetahi whakaaro ki te tango i hara i te tono ki te hanga i te kirimana te faaipoiporaa. Ko e puputu'u tonu to tatou iwi, me te tuku i te whānuitanga o ngā ngahau mo tãufehi◊a i runga i tenei kaupapa. whakaaro ētahi iwi e ka patu ai i te romance katoa kahore he e utu e marena ana, ki te kahore koutou e whakapono i roto i te aroha, me te kore he rite ki te kawe i ngā kawenga mo tona utuafare. Otiia tupu iwi wheako whakaaro nui te ora ki te maha vete i raro i tona whitiki, me te inoino o te whakaaro rerekē. I muri i te faaipoiporaa e taea kirimana te mahi rite he taurangi ki katoa o pāme me mohoao, te tohunga mo te moni o te tahi atu mau taata.

I roto i te tikanga ki te matau tenei pātai, ko reira utu he matakitaki, nga take i muri te kirimana marena: te pai me ngā raruraru. He aha e tuwhera ki te hunga faaipoipo e haere ana ki te nga painga mutunga o te kirimana?

Tuatahi, i reira e etahi porohita o te iwi nei me tika ki te mahi i tenei taahiraa. Hei tauira, ngā whetu o te mahi whakaatu, ina tomo ratou ki roto ki auraa utuafare ki o ratou kaihanga. I roto i tenei take, me tika tangohia te kirimana te faaipoiporaa, ki te matapaki i ngā take katoa ki te rōia ki te kōrero ki ngā tohunga. I muri i te katoa, kua maha whakahaere kaimätakitaki ki mau te whakarere kinotia ia whetu kiriata tino me kaiwaiata.

Tuarua, kia mārama te wehe i te reira i waenganui i te ariā o "aroha", me "taonga". Te nuinga hamama e pā ana ki te inappropriateness o te kirimana taua hunga e whai pito pipiri, e kore he tino e ka e taea ki te kia pono ki tana tane me te matua e manaaki nei. Ki te he te tangata he māia, mohio e tomo ia ki te marena o te aroha, ko ia e kore e tino wehi ki te haina i te kirimana te faaipoiporaa. e kore koe e whai ki te titiro i roto hoki i roto i te mahi te tahi mea fakamā mo ratou. Ko te ahua o te inihua, kite me te whakaaro nui. No te mea, kāore, he inaianei e kore te tahi mea i roto i o te mau te whakarere. Kua riro vete kitea. Ko taea te kirimana tiaki tamariki, me te taha ki matau o te hassle muri, me te parau-tia ore.

A toru, kaiwhakahau o te kerēme kirimana te faaipoiporaa e he tohu o te aroha i mua i-marenatia tenei. Ki te matau koutou e he kino, a pea taime noa fakamamahi e pā ana ki whakarere, me to koutou tahu heke mai wehenga o taonga, ka e matau koe tona hiahia ki te kia haumaru. Ki te he tino kaha, me te tahi te marena, ka noho tenei pepa he ōkawa tika. E mea pinepine i ora ai te hoa faaipoipo taonga io ki tau tona hawhe, me te hanga huru ma, me te pipiri ore, e ia tumâ te kirimana ranei whakamōhio nui huringa i roto i te kirimana te faaipoiporaa.

Fourthly, E kiriata nei maha kiriata i runga i ngā take whakarere, e whakaatu ana pēhea te ki te iwi nei kotahi aroha timata ia atu, piko me ki faaite nga koko whakamutunga, rāwekeweke tamariki, me te tikanga whakarihariha, me te wehiwehi. Hei karo i tēnei moepapa, he mea e tika ana ki te whakaaro i roto i te mua katoa. I muri i te katoa, tetahi o tatou hiahia kino ia he kotahi aroha tona ringa waewae ranei ki te tahuna whakahere motokā tahaetia ranei, engari kei te ngana te katoa ki te inihua me pahī, ko te motokā, me te hauora. He aha e kore mahi i te taua ki to koutou ake faaipoiporaa?

He aha e nga tautohetohe hoatu mua e te hunga e whakapono ana e te kirimana te faaipoiporaa - he tito, me te whakaitinga?

Tuatahi, e kore e he kirimana taua hanga tikanga mo te hunga e marenatia ki waho, he tetahi taonga. He aha ka taea e koe te faaite i te hunga ki a pera reira he mea? He taonga raua moe tahi ture, me te pera whakanoho wehea.

Tuarua, ko te kōwhiringa whakamuri. e kore te mea pera e tika ana i roto i aua hapu te wahi hanga hoa faaipoipo e rua rite takoha ki te whānau he kirimana taua.

A toru, i roto i te waihanga o te kirimana e kore te hunga e tino nui aroha, ka e kore wheako tōraro o te whakarere. Ko te tikanga whakatangi i runga i te tīmatanga wai ki te hunga e whai waiu kotahi obzhogsya.