Ko te rā tuatahi: he aha ki te kōrero e pā ana ki ki te kotiro?

I roto i te ora o nga tangata tupu te reira e rave rahi rā tuatahi, a i roto i te aroaro o te katoa, kotahi te ara ranei tetahi, pohehe māharahara no reira he kore tino rite ki ka rite ranei koutou tona hoa. O te akoranga, te utu wahine atu aro ki to ratou ahua, engari i mua i te rā tuatahi tango ratou ara etahi tangata i roto i te ringa, a ie e he reira pai ki te kakahu, me te aha te huru o te hinu kakara ki te whiriwhiri. E kore matou e korero e pā ana ki te hunga mole e haere ana ki te akoranga huri-ake, me te whakaaro e te atu kotiro zataschat ki moenga, ki kahore he kaha, na he mātao ratou. I tua atu, e kore e tangohia enei eé ki pūkete te meka e kore nga kotiro e wairangi, a ka taea e ratou ngāwari "tātai" ka hoatu i roto i te wahi.

Kei te korero tatou e pā ana ki te hunga iwi taitamariki e titau ki te hononga nui, me te tu'uloa ki te tetahi rite koe te kotiro. Na kia mahara: ki te ui koe ia ki waho, ka ka te kawenata, ka e hiahia i roto ia ia kua koutou, kia ai i te hui, tamata ki kia ia, a e kore e tino matatini. Ka taea e koe, o te akoranga, whakaaro i roto i te mua e pā ana ki te mea ki te mea ki te wahine i te hui, engari e kore e wareware e pā ana ki māhorahora, unpredictability. O te akoranga, e kore koe e hiahia ana ki te aparau i te reira ki to koutou mua ui ia e founga ki maha nga tangata i ia i ranei. I te kau, e kore korero koe ia, a e kore e koutou whakaaro ki reira. Haunga, ki te hiahia tino koe ki te hei ki tenei kotiro, e kore e ui ia e kore e pātai huri no te mea e kore tonu e mahi i te mua, a taea hononga tupuheke.

Ki te kahore koe e mohio ki ta ki te mea ki te wahine, ka te whakaminenga pai ia, tamata ki te ui ia e pā ana ki te mea he hiahia i roto i te mea he hiahia ia ia. Ki te mea ia he arearea tino, ia korero pai ki a koutou e pā ana ki taua mea, a ka reira he he kupu hoki kupu ... ko ia aroha o te tahi mea kotiro ngā ui tika koe ki te korero ki a matou e pā ana ki te mea e hiahia i roto ia koutou, no te mea he reira ngā. Pea ka kitea e koutou arearea hoki he vanavanaiki i roto i tona ngakau, a aunoa ka waiho koe o moni whānui.

A, no te mea kua kitea e koe te tahi mea ki te kōrero e pā ana ki ki te kotiro, ngana nui taea ki te titiro ki reira maha. Kia koa, me te whakahoahoa, kia mohio ia he aha te mea ia tino hauhautanga, a kei a koutou wehi o tona tika i roto i. E rave rahi "tamariki" taunaki ana te Hui e maha e pa te kotiro (hoki ki te pokohiwi pa ki, rahurahu me te rite), tōna tikanga ki nga wahine katoa he ngana i te aroha. Kaua e whakapono ki te reira! No te tangata pai ki te hei te tangata ngā atu te whawhai ki tona wāhi whaiaro. Wahine - he tangata ano hoki, me koutou e inaianei - he tangata ke. Tonu mo ia, mahara i tupono, whakawehi koe tika ia atu, a ka rere atu i a koutou ia wawe atu koutou whakaaro. Ki te hiahia ia, na ka tangohia e ia e koe i te ringa (me te kotiro atu mātauranga, me te ui ki te taea e ia te reira).

He aha ka taea e koe te mea ki te kotiro ano? Ae, tetahi mea. Tikina ia ki te kiriata, me te matapaki i te kiriata, kōrero e pā ana ki te waiata, e pā ana ki o ratou toi tino. e kore e tau'a ki te hākinakina, tae atu whutupaoro tokomaha nga wahine i teie mahana. Ko wai e matau ana, pea to koutou hoa - tetahi o ratou, kia kaua e kore e wehi ki te ui ia e pā ana ki reira. Otiia e kore e ui ia pātai whaiaro rawa, ka tīmata kōrero e pā ana ki sex, moni (te kore e kore he reira te whakahuatia tuatahi o ratou).

Tonu e kore e mohio ki ta ki te kōrero e pā ana ki ki te kotiro? Ka taea e koe te ngakau ia ake mā te korero i te torutoru kōrero rorirori i tona ora. Hoki tino hoki reira he tahi mea ki te faaite i koa, me te kata he rawa pai relieves te mānukanuka. Mea atu ia he torutoru eé, engari e kore e patipati. Kia tinihangakore koutou kupu, mauruuru i te mau tamahine i te reira. A, no te patipati ratou i raro i te guise o te haapoupouraa, ite ratou rawa kikokore, a ka ka koe koe he ki te tou hoa koe i roto i te hokinga mai "ka hoatu e" te tahi mea i roto i te wairua kotahi.

Tonu, etahi tauira taketake, aha ki te kōrero e pā ana ki ki te kotiro, e kore e tino. Ki te mahi koe e tangohia nga ngā katoa i runga i te pae pikaperskie makasini o te tangata ranei, rere koutou i te mōrea o te mahue ki tetahi mea, no te mea e kore koe e matau me pehea ki te tikanga i roto i te taitamariki wahine. Just faitotonu, me te tinihanga ki a ia, a ki te kahore koe e hiahia ki te tuarua i muri i te rā tuatahi, he pai ki te korero ki a ia e pā ana ki reira tika, kia he tangata. Pai ki te tuku kia mahi whakauaua aianei, engari ka matau ia e kore e taea e kite koutou i a ia ake, a ka rapu mō te tahi atu taata, e kore Tesha te tumanako ki runga ki a koe. Ki te ite koe e hiahia ana koe ki te kite i ano tenei kotiro - ki te mohio ki a ia i roto i tenei, ka haere tonu ki te whakawhanake whanaunga.