Ko wai te mea he fakahaohaoa me ki te mate ia ki te angitu?

E mea pinepine i roto i te mau uiuiraa whakaatu iwi rongonui e tona kounga rite perfectionism. kōrero ratou e pā ana ki reira rite mau maitai te whakakorekore, engari ahakoa tenei ko tino te take? I teie mahana, e tamata tatou ki te kōmaka i roto i te tangata ko te fakahaohaoa. Na meake ki te tangata penei hoki te angitu?

Hei timata, kia tahuri tatou ki te whakamāramatanga o te wā. Whakatūwhera te whārangi e hiahiatia ana o te papakupu me te pānui i te fakahaohaoa - he tangata e te mahia ki te whakarite i tino katoa i ia. Ko he kaimahi faufaa enei iwi, i waho nei e kore e taea te mahi i ngā ratonga i roto i tetahi whakahaere? Kia A faaoti tatou e te mea he fakahaohaoa. A ko reira pono e taua kahore ki te mahi i roto i te mahi te iwi i? Ki te tango koe i te titiro pai ki te hunga i te fakahaohaoa, ka riro tonu ko kitea ana kohakore. No te mea o tona hiahia tūturu mō te tino kia taea te kaimahi hope hoatu atu mahi mea, me te horo'a te nuinga o ratou wa ako i te ariā e kore ai ia e maia ki te tono i roto i te mahi. No miharo , ka utu maha ngā kaitono whakahere te whakamātautau i roto i te hinengaro, e whai ana ki te tautuhi i te pera-ka karanga "matatini Excellent".

Te āhua e kore noa e ite iwi e kore te mea tapatahi te ao, me te whakauaua lava ke tau ako tetahi mea te wā tuatahi. He aha te mahi e hiahia ana koe i te kaimahi e he ore e whakamahere me te whakawhanake i te ariā pai, hei tauira, e korero ki kiritaki, ki te te ahua o ana ariā, ka mau tonu ia atu i runga i te Mane e whai ake nei. I te tahi atu te ringa, feinga ke haohaoa ko tonu e tika ana, kia hiahia anake ki te ako ki te oaoa i ara nga whakaora iti. A ka whai koutou kahore raruraru ki te kiritau-!

Na e kua ngā koe i roto i te tangata ko te fakahaohaoa, tumanako ahau te kitenga o koutou e kore ko te taurangi o te angitu i tenei kounga, ahakoa he reira noa ki maha laureates Nobel. He aha te mea to ratou ngaro? Me koe ki te hei i roto i te au i te iho. O te akoranga, whakatakotoria i roto i tino i roto i te tikanga ki te whakatutuki i ā rātou whāinga - te reira tino nui, engari kaua e manukanuka hoki te pepa iti. Na reira, e ti'a ia tatou mahi i runga i tatou, a kahore ki te paerewa faufaa ore teitei o te hanganga ture! I runga i te rapu mo te otinga pai kia tango i te rota o te wā, kia kore e waiho pai ki te mahi i teie nei?

Ka rite ki tuhia e kaimātai hinengaro, "He syndrome ākonga" mai i te tamarikitanga. tono tokomaha ngā mātua rawa nui i ratou tamariki: te whakatau tata pai o ngā pūkete i te hākinakina, me ētahi atu Neke atu i te wa, ka tīmata te tamaiti ki te ite e te aroha ia anake hoki ona hua, me angitu. Kahore he mea maere i roto i te meka i tupu ake ia, rapu ana ia ki te riro i te pai i roto i te katoa. Ko tino mātu'aki mōhio o te kawa o te kore te tangata taua, no te mea he wehi ia e ki nga mātua me te mutu a tawhio noa aroha ia.

E Me ahau ki perfectionists tamata ki te huri i? Ki te kahore he pakanga ki te hapori, te tikanga o te wawaotanga hinengaro reira. I tenei wā, ka taea e te tangata ngāwari akakoromaki i nga mea katoa i ahau. Me ki te ako ki te akaanga, whakaturia whāinga whakatutuki, me te pārekareka ki te ora anake. Kia mahara taua katoa e te tika ki te hanga hape!