"E kino ana ahau i ahau!" Me pēhea te ki te aroha ano koe?

I roto i to tatou mōhiohio pakeke, ki tonu i te makasini mōhinuhinu me tapanga pāpori, he reira tino uaua ki te mau tonu te āhua hinengaro o te puka. Te tangata i te tīmatanga o te tau ki te tangohia momo katoa o whakapakoko, me mana'o, kahore nei i roto i te tau atu matau, e kore e taea e ia. Ka rite ki te hua, haamata deformation whaiaro tangata ki te kite iho i roto i te poro o te kare kino. e kore e taea e tikanga whakarewatia mutu, me i reira ko te haamou whaiaro mauahara-.

"E kino ana ahau i ahau!" - ka taea te rongo maha penei kupu i te mangai o te taiohi kore anake, engari ano hoki i te pakeke, te tangata whaiaro-ranea. e kore he siokitá hiahia ki te utu whakarongo ki taua tauākī ranei tenei. Tenei raruraru kua he pakiaka hinengaro nui hohonu.

E mea pinepine te parau "kino ana ahau i ahau, ka hiahia ki te mate" e taea te rongo i te ngutu o hōnore, Intermediate, ataahua ataahua ranei, he kaipara tuatahi-te piha haapiiraa, he kaiwhakahaere pai, me te pera i runga i. D. Tikanga, te syndrome o mauahara pānga iwi e e pängia ana ki te perfectionism me idealization o ratou. Hei tauira, te ākonga whakamahia ki, e ko tonu ia i roto i te mua, e te reira nui ki a ia mo te ako me te tetahi whakamātautau - e kore te raruraru. Engari kia tutuki ia kotahi, kotahi te hape - a kei te taka i te ao katoa motu. Tera pea he ākonga A i roto i tetahi whakamātautau ka riro he whakatauranga toharite hei utu o te mua rima - tenei āhuatanga ka hua i roto i te ati hoki ia ia. A e kia anake te mutunga te parau: "! Kino ana ahau i ahau, au e ahau he foi" Ākonga mo te roa te wa i roto o te ara, ka tīmata i te reira ki te whai wāhi i roto i te whaiaro flagellation-. I te tahi taime, no te kore e taea te takitahi te tiki i te tangata i roto o te arai o te whaiaro a pouri-, kia tukua atu e ia whakamomori.

Hei ora i roto i tenei ao ki te aroha hoki koe, ka etahi, e kore e faarahi roa koe ratou āhuatanga ranei te tahi atu iwi e noho ana. I muri i te katoa, ka whati i te tangata e idealizes iho, i te pepa iti, no te mea e whai ia ki te huri i te "whakatika-tae mōhiti" i runga i te outlook tūturu. Ko te take mō te mauahara - te riri mua whakahaua roto: e kore ahau e whakatau ia taua mana'o, na kino ahau i ahau.

Te tikanga kino taua whakaeke kitenga puhoi o ia. tīmata te tangata ki te ngaro pa ki te ao tūturu, kei te tino i te reira rumakina i roto i to ratou ake mate, mutu ki te whakautu tōtika ki te ponana a tawhio noa. Tetahi kīanga he para noa ranei te mea te reira kino, me te whakaiti. Ka ngana ki te āwhina i te huru te reira irritably me fefeka. Ka taea e maha e koe te whakarongo ki i ia: "Waiho ahau anake! e hiahia ana ahau ki te kia anake! Ka rite ki ta koutou e whakapawerawera i ahau! kino ana ahau i ahau! "tīmata Life ki te titiro pakanga tonu ki te ao waho. Otiia i roto i te meka i reira he he pakanga, "tenei ahau" ki te "whaiaro pai."

e kore te mea kotahi take i reira matapae te whaiaro mauahara-ki te ao waho, a aroha hunga kōrero maheni. I roto i te take i taua, ka te tangata he nanakia hoki hoa me te whānau. Te tīpako i te pärurenga, haamata te reira ki te whakangaro tona ngākau. Ano, te uaua kei te pupuri i te reira tetahi tangata harakore, te atu tatou oaoa i te tukanga. I roto i tenei ara e häpai "whaiaro-kino" iho ka whakapati i te whakapehapeha o ratou "whaiaro pai."

Ka taea e te tohu i runga ake arahi ki nunu'a mamafa mo ia me etahi atu. Na reira, e hiahia ana koe ki te tahu koutou ake pai, me te aroha i te "whaiaro tūturu" hoki te mea ko taua mea: ki te mau paruparu katoa, roa, hapa kupu, taimaha i te taikaha me te tahi atu mea. I muri i te katoa, i homai ora kei te kotahi, a he mea pai ki te ora ki tuwhera ki te ao kiko, me te momo o koutou kanohi.