Mau mama Pātai me Dads: "A, no te haamata i te tamaiti ki te ataata?"

Ko te ataata o te kuao tamaiti - te reira tonu he rōpū iti mo tona mama, papa me kuí. Na te aha tatou e nehenehe e mea e pā ana ki te malimali tuatahi - ko ia rite te mea homai i te rangi, i te utu mo te po mataaratanga, me te mahi pakeke o te matua. A, no te haamata ki te malimali te tamaiti? Aha kihai i meatia e ia na reira, i te koati-te taua tau o te hoa horo'a ataata katoa? Ēnei pātai whakaarahia e ngā mātua taitamariki tokomaha. I a ratou, ka tamata tatou ki te whakahoki kupu i roto i tenei tuhinga.

Ataata o tamaiti - te reira e kore noa te hui whānau pai, engari ano hoki i te tohu o hinengaro, tinana, me te hinengaro whanaketanga noa, whakawhanaunga wawe o te tamaiti. Na reira, he wā ka tīmata te tamaiti ki te ataata te ite, te ahua o te mahi e whai ake i roto i te ara roa o tona whanaketanga.

"Timata taku tamaiti ki te ataata noa i te fare ma'i!" - mea maha mama. Kaua e tango ratou kupu ki te ngakau. He aha ratou karanga i te ataata, tika tia'ii, hukihuki kohatu o etahi uaua, e titiro rite te ataata.

Te aro ki ngā mātua āwangawanga i runga i te take o te ahua o te mata ataata mohio tuatahi i te tamaiti, ka karanga i te tākuta tamariki reira te tau o 1.5-2 marama. Whakatutuki te ataata te tikanga mama (he tangata ranei, kua whakakapia reira). Tei nui i runga i te taiao o te kongakonga, ki te i te ra rawa tuatahi i muri ki te tamaiti te tiaki ngā mātua e puritia i roto i te pa ki a ia, maha tango i runga i ona ringa, mau tonu te kanohi me te reo whakapā, tīmata ia ki te ataata rite wawe rite 6 wiki. Ki te homai he tamaiti te iti whakarongo, ka tupu te reira i anake i roto i te rua marama ranei na muri mai. Heoi e kore e whiwhi haaparuparu ki te kore koutou tamaiti e malimali he marama, kaua e manukanuka ki reira. Me tika koe ki te tatari.

A, no te haamata i te tamaiti ki te ataata, ka taea e tatou e te kōrero e pā ana ki te hanganga o tona pera-ka karanga anō o te matatini. Tenei tamaiti tauhohe aronganui me te nekeneke i roto i te whakautu ki te ahua piira ranei ki a ia he pakeke. haamata te reira i te hanganga o te matatini i te tau o toru wiki i whanau: mutu te tamaiti, me te stares matatau, i te mea kua anga ia he kōrero pakeke. I muri, e rua nga marama, huri tenei tauhohenga ki te mata ataata, Gulen me mahi toitoi ka e pā ana ki ngā pakeke. hanganga tihi o te whakaora matatini - he wha-marama tau. I muri mai, i reira he kata, ko te ataata iti me iti haere ki tangata ke, ara, ki te hunga whakamarie korero ki te tamaiti, maha ia e ara karanga i roto i ngā take pēnei i.

Whakawa e te tini o nga marama ataata te tamaiti, ka taea e tatou tonu kia inoi i te tahi whānuitanga ki te whakawa i te huru i roto i te utuafare, i te whakaaro ki tona whaea, ona ahua aronganui. Ahakoa, ki te whakaaro koe e kore e te tamaiti matau tetahi mea, kōrero ki a ia, na te tere ake koutou tona korero me te whanaketanga psycho-aronganui: ka tīmata i te reira i mua i gulit, ataata.

mea Tohunga e he iti pea ki te titiro i roto i toku kanohi, ka tīmata ki te malimali muri atu i to ratou kotiro hoa tamariki. Na, ki te mea kua tipu haere koe tama, homai wa ake ki te kōrero ki a ia.

He wa ka tīmata te tamaiti ki te ataata, e taea e whakatakotoria i roto i te whanaketanga o tona hononga ki tona papa. tīmata te koati ki te unga tohu, a ki te kupu e whakahokia e te papa ana hoho'a mata, me te reo, ki te whakatū i te here aronganui motuhake i waenganui ratou, ara, ki te i mua e kore e ko te reira.

Ko te ra ka tīmata tō tamaiti ki te malimali, kia te timatanga o te roa, engari ngā he tukanga i roto i tona ora - whakawhanaunga.